Forgiveness Does Not Change The Past, But It Does Enlarge The Future – Paul Boese

Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. It is an act of unloosing yourself from thoughts and feelings that restrain you to the offense committed against you.

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of someone. It could be anything, maybe:

• Someone bullied you.
• Your partner left you.
• People called you names.
• Your partner had an affair.
• Your parents criticized you.
• Your loved one was abused.
• Friends gossiped about you.
• You were publicly humiliated.
• Your loved one was murdered.
• Somebody said lies about you.
• Etc.

These events usually leave you with feelings of bitterness, anger and even revenge. If you don’t embrace forgiveness, you will destroy yourself with these feelings. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Forgiveness will help you to reduce the intensity of these feelings so that you can feel free, healthier and happier in the present.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have forgotten what happened, it doesn’t even mean you are condoning what the other party or person has done, only that, you are just letting go of toxic feelings and emotions. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to reconcile with someone who badly treated you, or live with them or even eat with them or proving that you’ve forgiven them. Not at all! It’s your own choice and yours alone to make.

To withhold forgiveness is to choose to continue to remain the victim. You always have a choice. When you forgive you do it for you, not for the other person. The person you have never forgiven. . . controls you! To forgive is to set the prisoner free, and that prisoner is you!

Unforgiveness can cause serious health problems, such as high blood pressure, that can lead to disabilities, etc.

Forgiveness is a journey and you might need to do it everyday, until you feel free and uncontrolled from those thoughts. With forgiveness, you can remember the event, but those thoughts will never have an effect whatsoever to bring you back to bondage. You will think and remember, but because you’ve already forgiven, you will remember with total peace in your heart.

If you’ve been hurt, don’t worry, you are not the only one! Billions of people on earth have been hurt before. I encourage you to set yourself free from the captivity of unforgiving. Yes, people might be so cruel, but you owe it to yourself to set yourself free. It’s a wise choice! With forgiveness, the sooner you do it the better.

To Err Is Human; To Forgive, Divine! – Alexander Pope

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Life is all about priorities. You need to get your priorities right if you want to succeed and experience happiness in your life. Many people know what is important to them, they know the activities they have to engage in to succeed and yet still they find themselves selling themselves short. Failure and unhappiness comes because someone decides to put off working on their most important priorities for the sake of fulfilling the lust of temporary pleasures.

Sometimes it requires you to sacrifice watching some TV programs for the sake of accomplishing your goals. Sometimes you got to put off spending a lot of your time with friends for the sake of accomplishing your goals. There are so many tempting things out there, but the problem is, they only satisfy us in the present moment, they’ve got nothing to do with securing our ideal future of abundance and happiness. Your future can only be better if you get your priorities right. Daily, deal with your main important priorities first before you decide to do anything that is not productive.

Watch out for daily interruptions such as reading emails, answering mobile or cellular phone, watching TV, surfing the web with no direction, talking on the phone for many hours with friends, family members who wants your attention anytime of the day, pets, delivery people, new ideas, etc

In as much as you might be tempted to put off your most productive tasks to deal with unimportant tasks, my advice is, don’t listen to that voice. Don’t yield to that temptation, don’t follow that path. It leads to failure and unhappiness. I am not saying you shouldn’t read emails, play with kids, watch TV or anything. I am saying, you need to priorities your daily activities wisely. I know you want to be happy and succeed in life. So my advice to you is, get your priorities right!

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Don’t waste your time on things that are not important! As you go through the day, watch your thoughts. For the future depends on what you think of today. You reap what you sow!

Don’t waste time pondering on negative thoughts. They are of no value and save no useful purpose! Consciously choose what you should think of and let it be something positive.

Watch your attitude towards others! Should you waste your day being angry with someone? Is there any reward you get for doing that? NO!

You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.  ~Ruth E. Renkl

Don’t spend your day arguing with people. Nothing wrong with productive arguments but if you keep on arguing and getting stressed because you want to win an argument, you gain nothing from it. Stay away from arguments that takes you nowhere.

Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.  ~Stephen Vincent Benét

Live your day productively. Do the things that are important to you. Tell your loved ones, you love them. Pick up that phone and call someone you haven’t spoken with for a long time. Tell someone you care and understand. Give someone time by listening to them.

If you are working, do those things that are productive. Don’t spend the day doing unproductive tasks or gossiping or criticizing other people. You are better than that!

You are in charge of your day. There are times when there are emergencies beyond your control – that’s understandable. Apart from that, you are in charge of how your day should be lived. You’re in charge of your attitude and disposition.

You Make A Choice

No one can make your day greater and joyful if you are not willing to make it that way. Choose to be happy, loving, giving, hardworking and cheerful throughout the day! Seize the day! – Carpe Diem.

Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it – Groucho Marx

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Happiness is contagious and it should be passed on. Happiness is a choice you have to make. They say,

‘A cheerful heart is a good medicine; But a grumpy heart dries up the bones‘.

People who are grumpy drive people away from them whereas the cheerful ones draw people to themselves. As much as happiness is contagious and a choice we make, so is being grumpy. What’s the point of passing on a bad attitude to other people? You might as well pass on joy and happiness.

People feel comfortable to talk to those who have a merry heart than those who have a grumpy heart. Happiness creates a positive mood, you always are more creative in that state and you get to do more done during the day.

Sometimes life throws some hard stones your way, and there is nothing wrong with a little crying and grieving as long as you remain in control of those emotions. Make it a point to get back to a joyful state and choose to look at situations in a more positive way even though nothing good seems to might have come out of it. You can even encourage yourself and tell yourself that things could have gone worse than they are!

Happiness is all about appreciating you, who you are and what you are. It’s also about appreciating others around you together with all their strengths and weaknesses. It’s all about counting your blessings instead of counting your troubles. There are so many things you should be thankful of if only you pause and calmly think! You should be happy in this life despite all the news and bad things being predicted by the media and people around you.

Happiness begins from within and nobody else can not force you to be angry and grumpy. Choose happiness and pass it on when you walk across the street, stop at traffic lights and every-time you set your eyes on someone or when you get to talk to someone.

Choose a merry heart today, it makes a positive difference and is what our world and communities need. It brings us together, help us appreciate one another and create a willingness for us to work together and help one another.

If you are in business, you will never lose customers if you have a merry heart. (Make sure you meet all your customers expectation if possible) You will get more recommendations and you will create a great atmosphere to those who come in contact with you.

So Go Ahead……Pass On The Seeds of Happiness!

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