Yes, I get it, we want our emotions and feelings to be heard and understood. We want our words to sink in into their minds. We want to show them that we can stand up for ourselves. We want to show them that we cannot be manipulated.
Yeah, that kinda sound right, but it’s not right. There are times when it is important to express your feelings and other issues to those around you or your loved ones. It’s healthy if those people are wise enough to listen to what you have to say.
That’s all good. It’s not good when you argue with those I call fools. Those who don’t listen. Those who think they are right. Those who think people hate them. They think everybody don’t like them. They think they had it worse in this world than 99% of all the people in the world. Those are the fools I am talking about. No matter how you try to correct them, how you try to encourage them and show them facts that whatever they are doing is wrong; they continue arguing with you and guess what? You end up being one of the fools too.
Fools don’t care about what you say no matter how many times you try to shout to them to change their ways. If a conversation end up with arguing in it, you are simply stressing yourself and wasting your time. There is no point!!! If you are exchanging words with fools, don’t expect they are really paying attention to your words. They will be looking for ways to defend themselves and justify their foolishness to you. Adding insult to injury; they don’t think they are wrong.They will lie, they will blame you, they will have a bucket full of excuses. After arguing with you they will blame you for everything you said. Yes; that is their next venture. There is no winning in this for you. The only way you can win, is to avoid arguing with them in the first place.
Let me repeat this line; the only way to get out of that dilemna is to stop arguing with them and realise that you can’t force them to see things the way you see them.
While arguing, reasoning and wisdom will be inaccessible to you. You will end up regretting most the words you said and how you made a fool of yourself. It could be worse; you can can end up making the wrong decision; say what you are not supposed to say at the time, or you can end up being involved in a fight.
Avoid arguments, even if it means moving yourself from the enviroment for a while to calm down – do it. If you feel like you are boiling, you are upset and you feel like releasing your wrath to thy offenders; just stop yourself and let all that wrath come out of you. Only speak when you have calmed down and make sure you have calmed down!
If people don’t want to listen to what you have to say;that’s okay.Say what you have to say calmly, then live it to them to either listen or not to. Most of the times they won’t listen, so learn not to worry. There are some things in life you can’t change. Live it to God to deal with it; I say.
Make sure you don’t argue. You can be heard even if you speak gently; arguing and shouting will not get the job done except to stress you and to bring you to depression.That’s not good for you!
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